Why being a loner isn't always a bad thing

Many introverts are accused of being loners, but it's not always bad to be less sociable. Introversion is often accompanied by a preference or need for solitude. Some people need time alone because social situations drain their energy. There is nothing wrong with people who feel this way - just like there is nothing wrong with extroverts who love socializing and expressing things to others. It's the case, however, that socializing is considered positive while being a loner is typically viewed negatively.

There is, however, a partial explanation for this. Being judgmental is not a quality limited to extroverts or introverts, but extroverts do tend to be more expressive. Consequently, those who think extroversion is superior may be more vocal about it. Introverts and extroverts often have difficulty understanding one another - how could they like being alone so much, an extrovert could inquire.

Additionally, some individuals with social anxiety, poor social skills, or other issues can be loners because they lack the ability to establish relationships. This can occur amongst extroverts, and an extroverted loner is a likely candidate for someone who may be unhappy. Nonetheless, things like online conversations are popular today, and although prejudices exist towards them, they tend to be effective for some people (as in some cases of anxiety). A less intimidating atmosphere can be more comfortable for some people.

So introverts get stereotyped by judgmental individuals, and the loners are also accused of always having a problem. People like to make sense of things in ways they understand. Criminals are explained in terms of their family history, but it doesn't really explain what's going on in their mind - how they feel and think as a whole. Similarly, loners are typically unlikely to express their preferences. The rest of society selects their own explanations, which are often unfavorable.

Introverts can have a few friends or acquaintances. However, there are also those who are the extreme loner. While this is inadvisable for many people, in terms of their psychological health, there are always those who fall on the outskirts of standard human behavior. Some people are happy being isolated from others and even actively try to avoid people. That doesn't mean they have something wrong with them. In fact, much of the unhappiness felt by loners might be attributed to social stigma and judgment rather than any actual problems with their lifestyle. Regardless of why someone is a loner, people should refrain from assuming something about them - no matter the odds. If someone knew your family was full of unruly hoodlums, for instance, it would be unjust of them to assume that you are similar without seeing for themselves.

Loners get a harsh treatment by many people. The reality is individuals prefer varying degrees of socialization, with some seeking as little as possible. Difference is something to celebrate, not criticize.

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