Friend aren't easy to make

Believe me I have tried, but nothing seemed to work. Most people have friends and they aren’t looking for more. They have their little clique and ignore everyone outside of it. So it’s impossible to meet someone. This is especially true in the high tech modern age where everyone buries themselves in their laptops, smartphones, books, headphones, etc. So even those who don’t have friends isolate themselves from any potential human contact. They aren’t sure how to communicate with others so they just refrain from it. They look busy or disinterested. I know this because this is exactly what I am finding myself doing.

I have failed so many times at making friends and girlfriends that I have become permanently scarred. My lack of social success has made me awkward and uncomfortable around people. I’m smart but shy and socially inept. I have no confidence because I have no idea how to hold up an intelligent conversation. The fact that I don’t exactly look like a model makes things worse. I can understand why nobody wants to get close to me because until one actually takes the time to get to know me, I initially come across as a loser. And who wants to befriend a loser? Even the friendless have our superficialities.

Let’s all just be honest with ourselves: life is unfair. Some people are born inherently smart, attractive, rich, funny, confident, and/or athletic, while others are born dumb, ugly, poor, boring, timid, and/or frail or fat. Chance plays so much of a role in how we turn out. So much of our potential is already determined from birth (our genetic make-up, what type of family we are born into, what country or region we reside in, etc). Some are predisposed to be winners and some are predisposed to be losers. It’s like this for every other species and humans are no different.

Nature is selecting us socially inept, shy losers to fail. It doesn’t want us to succeed and pass down the genes that made us socially inept and shy to begin with (there are such genes). In due time it is possible that people like us will all be a thing of the past. Our unfavourable traits are being phased out of the gene pool as we die alone and don’t produce offspring, whereas those with the favourable traits are finding mates and passing those favourable traits down to the next generations. It’s all part of evolution. Nature is one cruel son of a bitch.